“For her”
–“No man is worth your tears, but once you find one that is, he won't make you cry” –
Unknown
– “Every single thing that God creates is beautiful, and you are one of God’s creations” –
Zack Oughriss Unsuccessful Relationships are the most disturbing thing in our life. There are so many factors that would easily eradicate your relationship with your significant other if you don’t pay close attention to them. It always matter how you start. What started right often ends right. I am writing this using simple language and using true examples that some people and I went through. It is very important to give your life a great value and have an unshakable positive attitude.
Firstly, I would suggest to you to find your purpose in life. Meaning—ask yourself about what is important to you and what would make you perfect happy individual. Lot of people don’t know what is the purpose of their lives, they are being driven by the infirmity of life. Everything is just temporary in this life, even happiness—we blame our failures on our love once and we prefer to escape rather than face them. You should spend a great amount of time exploring and discovering yourself. Set your personal goals before you start thinking about dating or getting married. One of the factors that contribute in damaging your relationship is when you don’t have personal goals in life. Don’t wait until your meet him and then start thinking about what you’re going to do in your life. Have goals and be independent.
Love is the most beautiful thing, but sometimes it can be sorrow. There is nothing that would guarantee a long lasting relationship, and there is nothing such as “How to not fall in love easily or how not to fall in love.” If love doesn’t come naturally, it is not love. I call it addiction just like smoking. Falling in love is unpredictable and unavoidable; however, you don’t have to be love-phobia. There are some things that you might want to avoid doing such as tattooing his name, set an individual ring-tone just for him, and some other stuff that would always remind you of him. However, I am not saying you should not do this things at all, but what I am trying to say is at least wait until he earns your respect and trust.
Love, the aftermath, if you happen to be broken hard, the first things you must do is start thinking “Positive” and always remember that it is not the end of the world. Everything we go trough in life has a great meaning and experience behind it. Negative thoughts will only make it worse. Try to talk it out with your friends and family and avoid talking to negative people. Finally, try to learn from your mistakes and try to make your next relationship successful.
Before starting looking for “Mr. Right” you need to be “Ms. Right.” Focus on yourself and how to improve your life style. The first thing most men observe when the see a women is physical appearance. Despise the fact that men can be attracted by a woman’s personality, if you are not attractive enough to get their attention; they often won’t approach you to learn about your personality. You don’t have to be super model; I believe that every woman is beautiful unless she doesn’t think so. We all have something that we like about ourselves, try to discover it and use it as a tool to build your confident. Think about what would you offer if sex had never existed? Make sure that your body attracts him mentally not sexually. You need to ensure that he respects your body and perceives beyond sex. Sometimes cuddling can be more pleasurable than sex. Simply because your body has earned a value that gave it respect and made it mysterious.
Emotions are very hard to control simply because it over control our mind and logic. Love can easily blind your insight which often causes you to ignore your common sense. Try to balance your emotions with him meaning you don't show too much care and affection unless you receive the same amount of caring that you give. Never base your decision on you emotions no matter how much it hurts. You must have boundaries and limitations; you can’t just swallow everything that he does. Remember that aggression would only makes thing complicated. Try to address what you didn’t like about what has done wrong in a mild intellectual way. However, if he never learned from his mistakes and crosses your boundaries, you must show consequences otherwise he will keep doing what he's doing. If he cheats on you or mistreats you, it simply means that he doesn’t deserve you nor your time. Accepting to be broken heart or humiliated it would not get you anywhere. You would just suffer from unhappy life. If we look at life from the right perspective, we will find it easy we just like to complicate it. 1+1-2 easy! Meaning I like you + I like you = us happy! Try not to fall under I like you + I’m not sure = Confusion!
What keeps relationships alive is simply “Excitement”
Make him miss you. Calling and texting every single hour makes you look pushy and available 24/7. “Don’t keep texting him, unless he responds with a statement and a question” example:
You: Hi baby! How are you?
Him: hey! I’m fine.
If you see this, don’t text him back until he does so. It doesn’t mean that you will never call him, but you just need to show that you deserve to be asked “how are you” too.
Drama free, smart girls are drama free. Try to be one of them. Guys don't like Nagy girls. Argue only on very important subjects so he would learn that when you are arguing, it doesn't mean that you are just talking or bluffing. Base your relationship on trust and respect. If he doesn't respect you, dump him and throw him in the closest trash can.
“Don't try to fix a guy, because guys can not be fixed. We learn morals when we are kids not when we are about to get married.”
Six pack guys are most likely to be retarded. Their brains are being controlled by their penises. If a guy brags too much about his body, it often means that this is all he's got to offer. So don’t get too excited when you see a cute hot guy with a nice body. Always look beyond that and give yourself respect so you would get it from others. We often see a nice looking guy dating a bad looking girl or vice versa—that means that sometimes beauty doesn’t mean everything. Simple educated person is way better that spiky hair loser.
Indoor activities are most common among guys who prefer sex over substance. If sex takes more that 25% in any relationship, it is more likely to be just a friend with benefits with a fake title called “boyfriend and girlfriend”. If he doesn't take you out and spend some quality time with you which don’t have to be a fancy dinner or movie, just a nice meaningful walk at the park or chill at the coffee shop to have a nice talk can worth a lot. It is very important to find some activities which you both enjoy so you would have an amusing relationship.
Consider yourself a piece of diamond. You must have self-respect. Don’t ever be cheap! Naturally, males go after female even in the animal world. If you stick with this analogy you will be granted respect and a valuable relationship. “Don’t never be an option.” Do not go after a guy period. Even if he's the most beautiful creature in earth, just pretend that you didn't see him he'll shoot himself.
There is nothing in this world such as “I don't know what I want”. My two months old nephew knows what he wants, "Milk" so for a grown up man to say it, it’s just “bullshit”. If a person doesn't know what he wants, there is no way in Hell he would make you happy. When a guy tells you “I don't know what I want" just walk away because he doesn't want you he just doesn't know it; so don’t never waste your time waiting for him to make up his mind.
Communication is very important, when people talk about communication in a relationship they often think about how to communicate with the significant other clearly and intelligently. What I mean here by communication is beyond that. We sometimes fear or shy away to tell “the ugly truth” especially to a person whom we love. This usually happen in the first few weeks of a relationship. Tell your boyfriend whatever you don't like about him. If you feel that it is offensive, try to say it in a mild way. If he's mouth stinks don't keep it. This is just an example. If you feel that he does something that you don't like, frankly tell him.
Sex o the first date is just not healthy. Guys have a chip in their brain that tells them “If a girl sleeps with you on the first date it means she does it with everyone.” Guys don't see it as scarify or being romantic. We just like it and don't think about you seriously. And most likely that a guy who slept with you on the first date will most likely brag about it and tell his friends how it went with details.
Pull-Pull, when you feel that he’s ignoring you, start pulling away immediately. Do not run after him; is just not going to work. Minimize talking and texting and I will guarantee you that he will come running after you. Note: when he’s back stop pulling away otherwise he will quit on you.
Finally, I want you to stop thinking for a moment. Ignore all negative thoughts such as “What if…, I think he loves me, I’m going to lose him….” Just chill-out
If he doesn’t work hard to earn you just forget it. Give your 50% and step back.
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